Are you a full time mother? Do you personally cook their food before going to school? Do you personally bring and fetch them from school? Do you spend a good quantity of time with them everyday? If you are a full time mother like me, you can easily do that. But if you are not... time is not enough to be able to do all the things that you have to do in the day.
Not all mother in this world is a full time mother. Some are working for their living. we cannot blame them, because they are only doing that for the family esp the kids. Kids need to eat, study, buy basic needs... and to be able to do that, we need money. To be able to have money, when you are a single parent or if your husband income is not enough... Even a mother needs to work.
What should you do if you are working, yet you want to be a part of your children's growing years.
Here is what i usually do, which may help you spend good times with your kids even if you are working.
Before going to work, either you will go first or your kids... but do not forget to say goodbye to them. A wake up kiss is a good start. If you have enough time to personally put their food in their lunch box, the better. A simple note from mommy like... "I love you baby" or "Be good in school" is another way of reaching your kids.
After work, either a 15 minutes of your time or during dinner time, ask them about their day. A few chat about school, or problems or assignments is enough.
Don't forget the goodnight kiss... if possible a bed time story. My kids loves it.
During rest day, like Sunday... spend a quality time together. A simple brownies cooking, or blowing bubbles in the garden, or a picnic perhaps... would make up all the time that you are not around.
Lastly, let your kids feel that you love them... say it more often, show it in every possible way.
I just hope it helps.
3 comments:
You are lucky because you can be a full-time mother. It means that your husband's income can fully support your family.
In our family, my wife is a career woman. She enjoys what she is doing.
I choose to be a WAHD (Work At Home Dad) as I don't want our three children raised by maids.
We have a maid who do the washing, cooking, etc. But I personally pick up our children from school and watch them growing.
thanks for this. i am a working mom and mother of three beautiful kids.
Being a mom (or parent) is a lifetime commitment, while Mom may not be physically present to do what the traditional stay at home mom/parent does, it definitely is not a task you call sick into, take the day off or trade.
I am in school full-time finishing a MS and a post-baccalaureate program, but made sure it is in the evenings so I can still walk them to school, be home when they get back, and still find the time to cook, clean and do laundry while spending time with them on the weekend.
Its all a matter of delegating, both my parent's worked two jobs and were students each, and it hasn't had a negative impact on my life
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