What makes a special relationship

What makes a special relationship between parents and kids are the things that makes them feel secured with each other. As a mom, I want to feel secured that my kids are safe, I have time for them,  They are growing well, They love and respect me and that I am doing my responsibility well and I will be able to send them to good school. As kids, They want to feel that I love them, I'll take care of them and that they are important to me.

I think emotional security matters on how we are going to raise our kids. It is important that we treat our relationship to our kids as a special one. This way, they would feel and do the same. It will contribute on their well being and on everything that will be in time.

When your child is using prohibited drugs

What if you discover your child is using marijuana or any prohibited drugs? I know it is like a slap in the face. As a parents, you have tried your best to teach him or her what is wrong but somewhere you must have went wrong. Of course as a parent you feel guilty. Did you miss something important? Did you somehow cause this? Why did you not notice there was something going on? What did you miss? Are your efforts not enough?

You are in a shocked state of confusion. How can you handle the situation for the best possible outcome for both you and your child? It feels like you're going to burst any moment. What you should and should not do?

First you must remain calm. Do not confront your child until you are ready to take the problem head on. When over excited and hurt you may say things that will not help the situation but may only make it worse. If you are prefer to consult your spouse... do so and allow them to help with what needs to be done. Both of you or one of you need to come up with a place and plan to openly discuss this issue with your child. Come up with a plan as soon as you can. The problem is not going to go away and it needs addressing.

Make sure that when you confront your child they are not under the influence of any drug. They need a clear mind to focus just as you do. Making your plan work is going to need to make your child realize that what they are doing is wrong. Do not play the blame game with them. You need an upfront open confession that they have a problem and that they need to seek help. Sometimes this may require the work of family along with the help of professionals. Be prepared to enlist the help of others if you need to. Overall make sure that your child knows that you love and care for them and are not trying to harm them with the confrontation. Just as you were in denial your child has a problem they are too. If you child refuses your help or the help of professional it is difficult but you must keep up the fight. Go to a professional with your family or spouse. These counselors and therapists see problems like yours daily and can send you in the right direction to get your child help.

Once you have your child willing to seek help take them to a professionally trained counselor. A counselor can have your child do an assessment to see how bad their drug use is.

Together from now on

I've been living with my youngest in the city for years. My eldest is living with my parents in the province. I only see her during a small time vacation in the province. It's really painful every time I have to go and leave my daughter in the province. Something is missing. I feel that my kids wants to be together... and I want us to be together.
So I made a decision. I will be leaving the city and move into the province with my parents and my daughter.

My eldest daughter is very excited when she learned that I will be living in the province with her. She wants to be with me and with her sister. And I am so excited too. I want to be with her. I believe they are growing too fast and they need me more than ever to be with them.